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"Do you Tell Men You Want a Serious Relationship?"
by Blaire Allison, the Love Guru
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So...Do You? Do you tell men you want a serious relationship?
If you're like most single women, you don't.
Why is that? Why aren't you sharing your desires....?
Is it because you don't want to scare him away?
You don't want him to think you're needy?
or pushy? You don't want to rush things?
I understand your worries and believe me, I've been there!
Before the launch of my marryblaire.com website (and the mass press exposure & analysis that followed) I too wanted a serious relationship but never ever brought it up on any date I went on.
Why? I was terrified. Ever since I was young I was told "don't rush the guy". "Don't push him." "Let him make the moves." "Let him take the relationship to a deeper level" "Make him want YOU"
After all I was too focused on getting him to chase me, there was no way I was going to give off the impression (or tell him) that I wanted him!
It ends up this is all fear and untrue. Just because you tell a guy you want something serious, it doesn't mean that you're rushing him or the relationship - or that you're obsessed with him.
Instead, it's just you making a claim "Hey, I want to get married..sometime soon." It doesn't mean that you're ready to walk down the aisle with anyone RIGHT NOW and especially not with him. (You just met him after all).
It also doesn't mean that just because "had the talk" that things are going to get more serious and that it's going to freak him out...and that he'll leave you.
No way! Instead what DOES happen is you get a deeper understanding of one another.
You find out if he's marriage material...or not. (and if he's not, then you leave, which is a good thing because then you are saving loads of time)
He ends up having more respect for you and you end up knowing if he wants the same future as you... rather than assuming it all.
The biggest thing I learned from my marryblaire.com experience was to share your desires with the world. When you do, you'll be pleasantly surprised at the response you get from the men all around you.
You'll realize how many men really DO want to get married. How many of them, just like you are looking for a serious relationship. They're looking to start a family too!
Men are just like you.... they want a companion. They want to be loved. They want a family...and they also have the same fears as you.
They worry about growing old alone and they don't want to be an "old" dad.
Now, I understand that this is all easier said than done so if you need help having these "tough" conversations with men, I'm here to help.
Here's one resource: http://www.loveguru.net/coaching.html
Here's another... http://www.loveguru.net/bestkeptdatingsecrets.html
How committed are you to finding "your one and only"?
Wishing you the best in love,
The Love Guru
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© 2008 Blaire Allison, LLC and LoveGuru.net and MarryBlaire.com
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